As for the ladies, it’s usually just a nice healthy ‘love’ glow which
progresses to a pregnancy glow (hopefully) and then pregnancy weight gain and
then boom! They explode. For some, it takes more than one episode of childbirth
to do that but it eventually happens. Then the lady does everything she can to
get her pre-baby, hot-body back. Some try and give up quickly - too much work.
Some never even bother do. A minority get it back quickly (lucky them). And
then, there are some people who have no issues with weight gain at all. They
look nice and trim all the days of their lives. We are happy for them (notice
the envious tone).
Where am I going with this? Your spouse is, more likely than not, going to
change in appearance, especially with regard to weight. How does this affect
how you see them? Do you see your wife’s stretch marks and think – eeeeww! So
not like the hot chicks on TV. Or do you think - aaaaww, she got this from
carrying and delivering our children. What about your husband’s growing tummy?
Do you think it’s a sign to everyone that you’re taking good care of him,
rather than the fact that midsection fat is a sign of poor health for everyone
and for men particularly?
How about tackling my own issues and making sure my physical appearance
generally and weight specifically is pleasing to my spouse. Ladies, we all know
the ‘competition’ out there, but hey, guys have got to keep up too. After all,
I’ve got to look at you every day for the rest of my life. Surely, I should be
pleased with what I see. The pressure always seems much more on the women, but
in this day and age, it’s beginning to tell on the guys too.
My point? Be happy with who you are, with how you look and with how you feel.
If you’re not, it’s likely your spouse isn’t either. If you need motivation,
think about your spouse. It takes two. If I like the fact that he’s nice and
trim, especially since he watches what he eats and plays both football and
tennis regularly, how about I get rid of my love-handles by going to the gym
three times a week rather than splurge on chocolates every night?.... then
again, maybe not.
Please share your thoughts below
By Hazel